Ways to aid your self care | ATypicalLife

Hey guys! Sorry I’ve been a bit vacant, blogging resolution going strong (not) but I’ve been giving myself time to get back into my college routine and making sure I have time to do all my essays and tests I’ve been given. I also had a dance show two weeks ago and have another one in just less than three weeks (so please bear with me) which is pretty exciting! However, I’ve also had some time off to focus on self care, which is what this post is going to be heavily focused on. Towards the end of last year, from October really, my mental state plummeted. I’d just started a levels, I didn’t want to go into college, I was constantly worrying about my future and having break downs to my family- I never really admitted to anyone how bad it was. However, the new year started off positive and, give or take a few mishaps, has stayed that way. I love going to college, except full days pretty obviously, and this new mindset is predominantly the result of one change but there are a couple of tips I want to share with you, literally some so trivial they probably make you want to laugh, but have a big effect.

  1. Be selfish and get rid of anything negative: I know this sounds so obvious and vague but there’s a reason for that. Whether it be a friend or a situation that’s giving you anxiety, drop it as soon as you feel something isn’t right. I know If it’s a friend you’re getting rid of then it’s ridiculously hard to do without making things awkward for everybody else, especially in school or the workplace but if it’s going to make you feel better, it’s really worth it. For me, it wasn’t a friend it was school stress. As you know from earlier in this post and other posts, I’m a dancer. I go to two different dance schools and am currently in my college’s dance company. I was also doing level 3 BTEC dance as my fourth a level which at the start I loved. However I just felt so out of place and it was so much stress. Obviously a levels are stress but it was unnecessary stress which was making me hate dance- something I NEVER want to do so I dropped the subject. I want to enjoy dancing and make it fun and it wasn’t like that anymore. It was so hard for me to do as I hate quitting, it’s not me. But one message I really want to express is quitting is okay if it’s affecting your mental health, do everything for yourself.

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Clean room: Okay so if my mum reads this she’ll be laughing right now thinking I’m very hypocritical. Hear me out, though my room has only been clean for a solid week and a half. It’s like a massive weight that’s been lifted from my shoulders. They say: tidy room, tidy mind and it couldn’t be more correct. A massive declutter is essential to make you feel less stressed and disorganised. However, don’t do what I used to do and just shove everything into draws- it comes back to haunt you! I’ve had a clear out of my wardrobe and plan to do my dressing table draws tonight- let me know if you would like a post on this because a decluttering post is actually something I’d really like to do.

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Music: I ADORE a good music playlist in the morning when I’m getting ready. As you’re reading this, make a playlist of your favourite feel good tunes. There is always an urge to put some slower ones on but don’t! Make this a separate playlist if you want but keep your morning one as positive as you can to get you ready for the day. Some of my favourites currently are ugly heart-GRL, Party in the USA- Miley Cyrus and Classic by MKTO. They’re some older ones but absolutely essential to get me in a good mood for the day!

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Buy a new razor, loofer, toothbrush, flannel etc: Something so simple but makes such a big difference. It’s the little things that can affect how you’re feeling. Also buying yourself new things doesn’t exactly mean new expensive makeup or clothes. You should swap your toothbrush every 3 months, I know I don’t do that but it’s actually really important for hygiene. I don’t even want to think about when I last got a new loofah, all the bacteria on it makes me feel a little ill

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The correct way to make to do lists: So for me, to do lists make the world go round. I don’t think I’d be able to get through the day without one, It helps me to remember everything I need to do and those tiny squares you need to tick really do motivate you to get going! My favourite way to do them is to actually buy a cute to do list booklet, I’m not completely sure where mine’s from but I know it was some place cheap like Wilko or Poundland, and it’s SO cute! The physical doing of writing your goals for the day is scientifically proven to motivate you more to achieve them. So you can write them on your phone if you want – but it’s not something I recommend, it’s way more satisfying to actually tick the box. Also, break your goals down. For example, a lot of my old to do lists would be:clean my room. And it wasn’t quite specific enough and if I’d spent ages cleaning my wardrobe but never got my desk done, I’d feel as if I’d failed for the day. So it’s best to break down your list into smaller categories like ‘clean desk’ ‘clean wardrobe’ to get more done in the day. Also, there’s nothing I stress more than putting fun aspects or less stressful tasks on your to do list. For example on mine I include:wash hair and shave. Sometimes even: put on a face mask. To do lists are great out if you’re not including self care, it can spiral into days of constant work. My final tip on to do lists is to categorise them into subs. I split my list into Urgent, semi important, and relaxed. That way I know to do all my urgent ones straight away and work down, because I used to always have a habit of doing the easy ones and not tackling the harder ones with deadlines!

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Go get your hair done!: This is one is pretty self explanatory, whether it’s going for a whole new cut and colour (which can be very refreshing and motivational) or just a cut and a wash, getting my hair done is one of my absolute luxuries and something I look forward to majorly when it’s just around the corner. Speaking of, I need to do exactly that very soon as it’s starting to be nearer to spring, and I love my blonde hair in the warmer months.

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Do some exercise: I know this is probably the most hated, and when I used to see things like this on YouTube and blogs I would ignore it but that’s why I’ve put it last. When you think of treating yourself you think of chocolate and a movie, and though that can be great, it’s not always the case. Getting a sweat on is the best self care you can give yourself, whether it’s dancing, running or just some simple stretches. The endorphins released make you extremely happy and the chemicals in sweat do your skin more wonder than any other cleanser or moisturiser ever could. Plus, getting blood pumping round your body and making yourself healthier, fitter and more toned can never be a bad thing right?

So they are my tips! I know a lot of these types of posts are usually read and ignored but I PROMISE you that these work an absolute miracle. Please give them a go, none of them are insanely big changes and don’t cost you an extreme amount of money (unless you do go for the whole new hairstyle) and have helped me dramatically, I swear once you do this you’ll never look back. If your mental health is deteriorating please never fret to talk to someone about it! I’ll leave links below for anyone struggling and my social media’s are always open to talk. Again I’m sorry for the hiatus and posts might be a bit wobbly for the next few weeks or so but I promise I’ll get back into a schedule when the chaos is over! Byee!

ATypicalLife

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https://www.mind.org.uk

https://www.mentalhealth.org.uk

https://www.time-to-change.org.uk/what-are-mental-health-problems/mental-health-help-you/other-useful-organisations -list of mental health and suicidal hotlines

My 2019 goals | Collab

Hi guys! So the new year is officially upon us and it’s time to start thinking about resolutions. I’m not going to lie- this year I have a lot. Some are ones that will take me a while to achieve whereas some are very quick and hopefully easy ones. I was very sceptical about making resolutions this year as they can be very bad for your mindset. Thinking about all the things you want to change about yourself is obviously not a positive thing but if you look at it with optimism and see them as positive changes, they are wonderful. Also, I try to set them as goals instead of resolutions because the world resolution has negative connotations. This post is a collab with the amazing IWasATeenagePolarBear- I’ll leave her link at the bottom. Make sure to check her post out too as we have some of the same resolutions!

As well as making resolutions for 2019, there was a lot of life lessons that 2018 taught me. One of the main ones I want to talk to you about is putting yourself first. I’m aware how cliche it is and I don’t know about you guys but once I’m in a situation, I feel a lot of pressure to stay there. When I started my 4 a levels. I told myself I would stick to 4 because I’m not one to quit things. However, one of my a levels was causing me extreme stress and though it meant letting people down, sometimes you have to be selfish and do what is best for you. Anyway, enough deep chats and onto my resolutions!

  1. Drink more water : This is a very strange one because some weeks (especially when I’m at sixth form) I will drink ridiculous amounts of water and I’ll be really hydrated but other weeks I will not drink anything! I feel the benefits in myself when I’ve drink well but I just forget! So that’s definitely one of my goals for 2019
  2. Eat healthier: 2018 was possibly the most up and down year for my eating habits. I put on a fair amount of weight and it affected my mental health quite a bit to the point where i would cry to my mum if an old outfit didn’t fit. I don’t want to set a goal to lose weight because quite honestly I don’t really care about numbers I just want to be healthy inside my body. Additionally within this I want to eat less meat. My best friend is a vegetarian and through her I’ve seen the benefits of eating meat less – for the body and the environment and obviously the animals. I don’t want to set a goal of being vegetarian as it’s something I want to do gradually but having a few days a week where I don’t eat meat is definitely a goal.
  3. Blog more: A very obvious one for those of you who have followed me for a while. When I’m not at college, I post quite consistently if I do say so myself. However, I go to school and it just drops out of my head. So I NEED to post more. My blog feels like a place for me to completely offload so it’s something id love to do more next year.
  4. Do the splits: So obviously a bit of a silly one but it’s something I’ve wanted to do for ages. As a dancer it’s something I really want to learn, and just increase my flexibility in general.
  5. Travel more: Quite a hard one for me as I can’t afford to send myself or my family on holiday. However, if I could get abroad just once this year it would be amazing. I love seeing the world and travelling is something I want to do massively when I’m older. Backpacking and seeing different cultures appeals to me so much and I’m very jealous of everyone else who can do it. As I can’t go abroad frequently, I’d love to see more of the UK. Scotland is somewhere I’d really like to go. So is York and London.
  6. Read more: I am a HUGE reader but throughout 2018 I haven’t had the biggest chance to read. I read for my English a level and though I have liked Othello and Jane Eyre etc. I want to read for my enjoyment. Goodreads do a challenge where you set a goal of the amount of books you want to read. Many people go for 100 but I think I might go for the 50 purely because of my lack of time at the moment and I don’t want to force myself to read. Obviously if I don’t hit 50 I won’t mind, it’s just a guideline.
  7. Get a sleep schedule: Again, this is something I do really well with while I’m at school because I have to wake up early, but in the holidays like this week I will stay awake until 1am and wake up at 11am. I hate it when I do this because I’m so unproductive and I feel like I’ve wasted the day. I also feel groggy and very unrefreshed so it’s a habit I need to change.
  8. Get a job: I NEED MONEY. Therefore I need a job. I used to have a job and since then I’ve had some on off chances but nothing serious. I feel bad scrounging off my parents to go out with all my friends who have jobs so I really need to start earning money somehow! Something like waitressing or working in a little shop would be perfect.
  9. See my family more: This was one of my goals last year and I’m really ashamed to say I didn’t really accomplish it. I get too wrapped up in my own life and am very lazy. However, events of this year have made me appreciate the time I spend with my family and friends. This year I’m very motivated to see my extended family and treasure every moment I have with them.
  10. Be more organised: Another recycled goal from last year. I’ve said before I’m not the worst at organisation, I get all of my work done and it’s always handed in on time. But, I’m always doing it last minute. I hope to do a bullet journal this year so I’ll have to update you on it!

So they’re all of my goals for 2019! Actually that’s a lie, i have a few more but honestly I don’t think I can make this post any longer. I’m aware 10 is a lot but by not setting number goals, even a small improvement in any is an accomplishment.

Thanks for reading and don’t forget to read IWasATeenagePolarBear’s post!

IWasATeenagerPolarBear’s post

Bye,

ATypicalLife x

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Collabs and q&a questions needed

Hi guys! Just a quick post that will most likely be deleted soon. I’m looking to do some collabs, if interested just leave a comment below of your site and what type of collab you’d like to do.

Also, i’m looking to do a q&a in the new year so any questions please also leave them below. Thanks!

ATypicalLife x

Life update -Where have I been?! | ATypicalLife

P.s: im aware it’s not Tuesday but Tuesday ended up being Christmas Day

Hey guys! Long time no see, I’m genuinely sorry! I keep planning to get back into blogging and then quite honestly, i can’t be bothered. I feel like i sort of have some excuses though? Sort of being very key there. So the last time i properly blogged was summer 2017. It’s now nearly 2019. Oops. There were a couple of posts in October 2017 and June 2018 but nothing that I really kept up with. So I’m sort of just going to give you a little update really – I love reading these sort of posts and since I haven’t spoke to you at all in like six months. It’s probably a good idea.

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5 tips for happiness | ATypicalLife

Hey guys! So I’m not normally this inspirational but I’ve been thinking how recently I’ve been feeling little bits of happiness every now and then and how my overall wellbeing has been pretty positive recently so I wanted to share what I’ve been doing differently, they’re not going to change your mood drastically so please don’t think that these will, they just help to uplift my mood, and I hope they will for you too.

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